a lot of losses one HUGE gain


hi, my name is lissa and i found out i was pregnant when i was 16. the father was a guy i knew for a long time. i was 1 month pregnant when i told him. the first thing he said was " what??" then he went on to say that it is partly his fault i am pregnant and he will definately be in his babys life. we stayed together. the next step was telling my parents. my mom was very upset because she was a teen mom she kicked me out for 1 week then she said " i know how it is, so i will help you" she was a teen mom aswell. she had me when she was 19. my dad was very dissapointed. his little girl was PREGNANT!! i cried for about a month, because i made my parents dissapointed after all they did for me. he just said we all make mistake, so if you think your old enough to have sex, your old enough to take are of the baby. he said hell help me though. 5 months later i found out i was having a boy. people at school were definately talking!! i never really cared what people said. then my due date came and passed. i actually had the baby 1 week passed my due date MARCH 27 2009. his name was XAVIER. my bubba, lol. i love my son so much. when he was 3 months his father told me he cant be with me anymore because he feels he doesnt feel the same way he did before. i cried for a whole week. the father of xavier is still coming by twice a week to see him. he is trying to help me finacially. i am now living in my own apartment. im doing fine. i am getting an education at a community college. i have my familys support. i always say i love the father of my son for giving me the best gift in the world,,, XAVIER.



lissa

















Experience is a Hard Teacher

I got pregnant when I was 17 years old, I was so happy due to the fact that it was from my first love in high school. I had dreams of us being together forever, through thick or thin. But I was wrong! We broke up after our third child and after 10 years of being together. I struggled alot and had gotten evicted many times due to the fact that I didn't have a high school diploma. I was depressed all of the time, and I tried to commit suicide, because no one likes to see their child hungry, and I was just a kid myself or at least what was left of one. I was fortunate because my father caught me and called 911. After they pumped my stomach I was sent to the crazy house (NO REALLY). There I was counceled and they kept asking me why I was trying to do something so permanent for a situation so temporary. I told them over and over my reason,but they kept saying that it would get better. I am 30 years old, I have 5 kids and it is still hard for me. But I count on no one, I struggled through all of my 20's and I was in and out of abusive relationships starting with the one with my kids father. He is in prison and my kids are just fine. I am in college now typing this story. Because, I want other people now what I experienced in hopes that they will not make the same mistakes that I did. Never let anyone ruin your life. I mean if you are not ready to become a mother, never let anyone talk you into it. Because it is not fun being poor and uneducated. Its not fun watching your kids go to bed without eating or not having enough to eat, and its not fun when your kids want something and you are not able to get it. I am the only one that stuck around and struggled with my kids. I am the one they come to when they are happy and when they are not. I am a good mom but it was hard!



Vikki

















single and aloneI am 19 and have just found out that I am pregnant. I am alone now because my boyfriend of 3 months has got back together with his ex who he also has a kid with but he doesnt want to know and has basically ignored me even though I have told him that I am pregnant and i think he will want me to have an abortion if he even acknowledges me and my baby. I am scared to tell my family because I am the responsible one and should not be doing this.



Vikki

















Surpise at 16I fell pregnant in November of 2008. I wasn't late when i found out but my mother said she thought i was pregnant and to take a test. Mothers intuition she blamed it on. I took 4 tests and in astonishment i discovered i was indeed pregnant. I was 16 years old. (Just) I told my boyfriend who was quite calm about it and said 'it doesn't surprise me now lets tell your mum/" i told mum and she said ' lets take you to the dr then and get a blood test to make sure' 2 days later it was confirmed and i was approx 3 weeks pregnant giving me a due date of August 25 2009. By this point i was excited but i still had no education so i enrolled in TAFE to get a school certificate. My pregnancy progressed smoothly and by 7 months i looked as though i was carrying twins. I was huge. We tried to find out the sex of the baby but it had its legs crossed in the ultrasound so we were told we had to wait. My due date came and went and on August 29th 2009 i wasn't feeling myself. I kept getting cramps but they were very irregular coming every 2 hours. I dismissed them as labour pains until later that night when my boyfriend and brother went fishing. I stayed with mum and later had to call my boyfriend to get him to come home as i was quite scared and uncomfortable. I laboured all night and the pains only got intense around 5am (August 30th) I spent the whole night watching TV and walking around and timing contractions. At 5.30am we left to go to the hospital. The Dr told me i wasn't in labour and to go home and take panadol. I went home quite angry to be honest and tried choking down panadol until i said to mum, I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!' and after saying that my water broke all over the lounge room floor. My boyfriend whisked me up and put me in the car and mum rushed me back to hospital where they confirmed i was 6cm dialated and was progressing quite quickly. I was told to expect a baby within the next 24hrs. The next 5 hrs were a complete blur to me, the pain was intense but not unbearable. I pushed and pushed for almost an hour and after having an episiotomy (which didnt hurt) my little GIRL was born. She weighed 7.6lbs and 49cm long. She had blonde hair, blue eyes and a very loud scream! I looked up and both my mum and boyfriend were crying. 4 hours after giving birth i went home because the midwives were cruel to me i assume because of my age. Xanthie is 7 months old now and is a happy healthy little girl. She rolls over, says dada and hello, goes to daycare 3 days a week and is the most precious gift ive ever been given. I am still studying for my certificate and i should have it completed by june.



Tori

















15 and pregnant and the father dont want to knowi was going out with a boy for a few months,we knew each other for years.....and when i fount out i was pregnant i was devasted i didnt know what to do. i told my closest friend and she said shell be there for me.i didnt tell my family till i was 4 months. when i finally plucked up the courage to tell the father of my baby,he went mad and said to me to get rid of it or hell never talk to me again....i was so upset thinking to myself i was going to be alone......then i told my mum and she was so dissapointed but she said she will do her best to help me and my baby....it took me a while to get used to it as i so wanted to do my gcses and get a job but i knew i wanted my baby to have the best...every time i went for a scan my heart would warm up knowing something i made was inside me and i needed to be strong.....then on the 14.3.10 at 11pm my darling daughter georgia was born and ive never been so happy...now im home schooled and its working fine......the father of my child still doesnt want to know but to me aslong as my daughter has me and my family shell be ok...i losted alot of friends but i gained a star i will have forever



charley-charlotte